Once you realize how blessed we are and how much we are loved by our Heavenly Father; who sent His only son making sure a way is made for each of us to be redeemed unto Him because, only His son could bear the cross. Jesus carried our sins and sorrow, He was wounded, oppressed, stricken, bore our iniquities and all of this pleased God Isaiah 53: 1-10. So stop trying to make your own way and use the one God made for us.